Your Cell Phone Masks Your Lies or Shows Who You Are

Here’s What to Do if Your Wife Wants to See the Contents of Your Phone

Many men will go to great lengths to avoid showing their wives what’s on their phones. There are some extreme examples, like a recent incident in Florida, where a man on a boat with his girlfriend was approached by the police. Without ID, his girlfriend suggested they use his phone to show a document or call for help, but he refused to give her his passcode. In an act of desperation, he jumped into the sea, trying to flee. As he swam away, his girlfriend ended their relationship. The man was arrested later.

While this might seem like an overreaction, many men are similarly terrified of revealing their phone’s contents to their wives or partners—and maybe you feel the same way. When questioned, some hide behind claims of privacy. However, in many cases, this is just an excuse to conceal something they don’t want their partner to see, such as questionable friendships, access to pornography, certain online chat groups, or even extramarital affairs. These are just a few examples.

Bishop Renato Cardoso addressed this issue, “This isn’t about snooping; a healthy relationship doesn’t need snooping or secrecy. Only a spouse who lacks confidence and self-respect accepts this kind of situation. I can’t imagine my wife having a password on her phone that I don’t know, or vice versa.”

The privacy argument holds even less weight in a marriage. When two people unite in marriage, they become one, establishing a bond of trust that should be built on mutual respect and openness.

According to Bishop Renato, married men need to stop using the hypocritical ‘privacy’ excuse when it comes to their phones. “It’s just a mask. If you look at my phone, you’ll see who I am. That’s why so many people argue about passwords and privacy in marriage. There is no privacy in marriage. Whoever defends it, whoever fights hard to protect their privacy in marriage, is hiding something. That’s the reality,”  he says.

If you’re uncomfortable with your partner seeing something on your phone, it’s a sign that it probably shouldn’t be there—or in your life at all. Don’t engage in behavior you’re ashamed of. Be honest. Be a man.

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