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Complaining Does Not Solve Problems. This Attitude Only Prolongs Frustration and Generates Dissatisfaction
Many men have the habit of “splitting hairs” and always look for a reason to complain or pick on any situation, no matter how trivial. This behavior generates a poor quality of life for those who complain and those who live with them. Those who complain constantly demonstrate constant dissatisfaction—not only with what is around them but with life itself. It seems like nothing is ever good enough.
Public transport is a common example. If someone happens to bump into this man during a bus or subway ride, he gets angry. But what does this solve? The person didn’t bump into him purposefully; the transportation was full. However, the complainer insists on talking about what happened and reliving an irrelevant situation as if that would change anything. The problem has already passed, but the frustration remains.
Another example in everyday life is the noise a neighbor makes when dragging a chair or knocking over an object. Instead of overcoming the minor inconvenience, the complainer sees an opportunity to complain. He bangs on the wall and shouts, and what does he achieve by doing so? Nothing more than irritating himself and, perhaps, his neighbor. The problem is temporary, but the discomfort generated by so much irritation persists.
There are also those who, upon seeing the elevator stopped for maintenance, let out a deep sigh and start saying: “Today of all days! I was in a hurry!” How does this help them? Absolutely nothing. The elevator remains stopped. Their reactions only add more negativity to their day.
These are just a few examples of how nagging can become a debilitating addiction. Instead of focusing on solutions or accepting that certain situations are beyond our control, the nagger prefers to feed his frustration. Ultimately, this behavior generates more unhappiness and makes life more difficult and less enjoyable.
By continuing to complain about problems and situations that have already passed, you only prolong your dissatisfaction. An intelligent person knows that if the issue is minor or has already passed without causing harm, having balance and resilience are the best options.
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