The World on Your Shoulders

Many Men Carry the Weight of the World on Their Shoulders

Many men have difficulty opening up, especially when the world seems to weigh heavily on their shoulders. Talking and venting about their problems can be a real ordeal for many. A recent survey of 1000 men, commissioned by Hallmark UK, showed that 19% of respondents find it easier to express their emotions in writing than in person. Among the reasons, 42% cited fear of embarrassment, 39% the feeling of awkwardness, and 30% the concern of appearing weak.

The root of the problem may lie in the type of upbringing they had. During childhood, men often hear phrases like, “A man who is a man solves things alone.” In addition to repeating throughout their lives the attitude that this sentence contains, they end up spreading this thought among their children and friends without measuring the consequences of this act.

Unfortunately, this logic produces side effects for everyone. Some don’t talk to or vent to their wives even when they are in delicate health situations or have financial difficulties, for example. However, when the truth comes out without an honest conversation taking place prior, many relationships cannot handle the lack of communication.

What many men forget is that they can open up and ease their tensions by talking to Someone greater. The Bible guides us to pray without ceasing, that is, to establish intimacy with God. Prayer works so perfectly that the more we pray, the greater our desire to pray, and we become closer to God.

Although many tend to ignore us, God is always willing to listen to us. He listens to us even when we are unsure of what to do in the face of certain problems, especially those that are impossible within our capabilities, and inspires us or points us to the solution. Regarding this, the Bible advises:

Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and pleading with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all comprehension, will guard your hearts and minds in Christ Jesus.
(Philippians 4.6-7)

Creating intimacy with God will also help a man become an example for his wife and children and build a relationship of partnership, fidelity, and trust—one of Jesus’ great teachings.

No one is alone, but this relationship with God needs to be created and maintained every day, not just in the face of adversity. After all, the Bible teaches us to pray, not only to ask for guidance but also to thank and always praise the Lord.

Intellimen

Are you interested in becoming a better man? The monthly Intellimen meeting is designed for men who want to improve themselves in all areas of their lives. It’s a gathering where men support each other, share helpful advice, and make a commitment to work hard every day to become better husbands, fathers, brothers, sons, friends, boyfriends, employees, business owners, students, servants of God, and members of society, overall, better persons.

To learn more about Intellimen and its upcoming meeting, please visit The Universal Church near you and speak with the Pastor, or call 1-888-332-4141 for additional information.