How to Remain an Attractive Person Forever

This Topic Was Discussed During the Love Therapy on Thursday, September 19th, 2024

On Thursday, September 19th, Bishop Renato Cardoso and his wife, Cristiane, led the Love Therapy at the Temple of Solomon, emphasizing the importance of attraction in relationships.

What Makes a Man Attracted to a Woman, and Vice Versa?

Attraction usually begins when a man or woman notices something about the other person—whether it’s their physical appearance, demeanor, way of speaking, posture, or smile. Something catches their attention, sparking the beginning of attraction.

From there, courtship begins. Initially, a relationship is fueled by this mutual attraction—everything about the other person feels exciting and new. However, this initial excitement eventually fades, and the relationship enters a calmer phase. The attraction then matures into a deeper, more stable love.

For a relationship to thrive and love to last, couples must maintain the admiration that first brought them together. This is where many relationships falter—they neglect this essential element of attraction.

Insights to Consider

“How do you keep the flame alive in a relationship?—This is the great challenge couples face today. The Bible offers guidance on all matters, including this one. Marriage was not meant to be a prison or a punishment. When done according to God’s will, marriage is the closest thing to heaven you will get on earth,”  said Bishop Renato.

He referenced Proverbs 15:13 and 15:

A glad heart makes a face look good, But when the heart is pained, the spirit is broken.

All the days of the afflicted are bad, But a cheerful heart has a continual feast.

“What these verses show is that the inner state of a person affects the outer. Imagine a party that never ends—that is what marriage is like when attraction remains. It’s a constant celebration. But if your heart is sad, burdened, or oppressed, no amount of outward effort—makeup, beauty, filters—can cover the pain of a troubled heart. So, if someone wants to remain attractive forever, they need to start by addressing their heart—their inner self,”  Bishop Renato advised.

The Four Areas of Attraction

Bishop Renato then outlined four key areas of attraction:

1. Physical Attraction: This is the first impression, where you either find someone visually appealing or not. However, true physical attraction often grows based on how you feel about the person as you get to know them.
2. Intellectual Attraction: We marry not only a person’s body but also their mind. Intellectual attraction comes from feeling understood and connected. It also involves being wise in life, handling problems effectively, and avoiding behaviors that put the relationship at risk. Emotional intelligence is highly attractive.
3. Spiritual Attraction: This is about admiring a person’s relationship with God. When you feel safe in this aspect, it becomes a source of attraction.
4. Security: Security is the result of all three of the above—physical, intellectual, and spiritual attraction. When these are in harmony, they create a deep sense of security in the relationship.

Finally, Bishop Renato emphasized that when a person works on these four areas, they naturally become more attractive, and this attraction can last forever.

The Love Therapy

The Love Therapy meetings aim to help couples and singles solve issues in their love life. The Love Therapy takes place every Thursday at 7 PM at select locations of The Universal Church. Call 1-888-332-4141, text 1-888-312-4141, or visit The Universal Church for more information.