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During the radio program The Love School Answers<\/strong><\/em><\/a><\/span>, Mariana, who lives in Brazil, sought advice from instructors Renato<\/a><\/span> and Cristiane Cardoso. She explained that she has been having a tough time with her stepfather, who doesn\u2019t want her living in their home. Her fianc\u00e9, currently unemployed and living in another state, suggested that she move in with his mother to escape the situation, but Mariana is hesitant about this option.<\/p>\n MARIANA<\/strong>\u2014I\u2019m going through a very difficult time because my stepfather doesn\u2019t like me and doesn\u2019t want me in the house. My fianc\u00e9, who is unemployed right now, wants me to stay at his mother\u2019s house, but I don\u2019t want to. What should I do?<\/p>\n RENATO<\/strong>\u2014Let me be very clear: leaving your parents\u2019 house is never a good reason to get married or to live with someone. Typically, the motivation is to escape a problem, and, as a result, the implications of such a decision are often overlooked. While moving in with your fianc\u00e9’s mother\u2014and him\u2014might seem like a good short-term solution, you need to consider that he is unemployed. Living together before marriage can lead to complacency; why would he feel the need to marry you if you\u2019re already living together? Making this decision solely to escape your home situation is not conducive to your love life. You will leave one problem only to enter another. It\u2019s essential to address the issues with your stepfather and your mother first.<\/p>\n CRISTIANE<\/strong>\u2014Allowing your partner to “do you a favor” by giving you a place to stay can start your relationship on shaky ground. If your future involves marriage, he might later remind you that he took you in when you had nowhere else to go. This dynamic can be harmful because it may lead him to feel entitled to mistreat you or hold it over your head. Unfortunately, this is common among young women who seek to escape problems at home without realizing that they\u2019re compromising their sense of agency. Consider that you would be leaving the only family support you have to live with someone else\u2019s family, who will have their own rules. If you don\u2019t accept their guidelines, where will you go? Don\u2019t abandon your home! See if he loves you enough to say, \u201cWe care for each other, so I will work hard to find us our own place, and we\u2019ll get married because I want you in my family.\u201d<\/p>\n