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Attention Parents: Do Not Irritate Your Children2 min read

Learn How to Conquer the Respect of Your Children

Mother arguing with teenager as teenage daughter has her back turned to her mom, both are sitting on the sofa

Parents love to use the Biblical verse on Ephesians 6 that instructs their children to honor them. Many Christian parents use the scripture to demand that their children respect them.

However, what many fail to realize is that within the same chapter there is an instruction directed exclusively to the parents. Let’s read it:

 And you, fathers, do not provoke your children to wrath… (Ephesians 6:4)

In other words, the relationship between parents and children is two-ways. Children should, yes, honor their parents. However, parents ought to also do their part in fulfilling the commandments given by God.

Christian Psychologist Edineia Dutra highlights that children should honor their parents, but parents must also make themselves worthy of honor:

To honor father and mother is the first commandment with a promise. To honor means to respect. God wants children to respect their parents regardless of their personality. However, this does not take away the responsibility of the parents to make themselves worthy of this honor.


Ways in Which Parents Irritate Their Children

Dutra brings to attention the many instances in which parents irritate their children:

They irritate their children when these witness their marital arguments; when they treat their children with inflexibility and rudeness; when they only see the negative side of their child; when the only moments they speak with their child is to make demands and complaints; when there is a discrepancy between what the parents say and do; when they expose their children’s flaws and mistakes to extended family and neighbors; when they do not appreciate the efforts and achievements of their children; and when they do not communicate with or listen to their children.


Dialogue and Respect

According to Dutra, good communication is the base for the relationship between parents and children:

If the conversation between parents and their children is based on honesty and lovingkindness, respect among them will be a consequence.

Some parents still raise their children with inflexibility, they do not listen to their children, they do not accept to be contradicted, and their will is above everything and everyone. The ideal if for you as a parent to apply the good moral values you received from your parents and complement that with dialogue, flexibility, and comprehension.


School for Mothers

This project’s main goal is to assist and provide parents with valuable tools to help them with the very important task of raising their children. 

Meetings are free to all and take place on the first Sunday of each month at 3 PM CT. To view the live broadcast of the School for Mothers’ monthly meeting, please join the Facebook group: School For Mothers English. Dads are welcome to join as well.

The Universal Church
  • Rafaela Dias 

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  • Translation and adaptation by Divya V.

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